That said, society doesn’t exactly make it easy on fat women to develop healthy self-esteem.
Even within the Black community, where fat is supposedly accepted so much more readily than in other cultures, fat women experience discrimination, disgust and ridicule.
Fat might be more acceptable, but you have to be a certain kind of fat—padding in all the “right” places and none where it’s not desirable.
Many women and men out there have grown up with similar messaging from the ones they love.
By now I hope we can all agree that Valentine’s Day is, well, a little bit silly.
The last time I stressed out over this alleged holiday was in fifth grade, when the printer ran out of ink in the middle of printing cards for my classmates.
Black chick with no hangups about my size, and I have the nerve to expect a romantic interest to be comfortable with it.
I learned a long time ago that I needed to love myself before anyone else was going to love me, so I’m perfectly happy being on my own if I can’t find a partner who accepts me as I am.