There’s an article about estrangement on my website that gets more feedback than any article I’ve written before or since.
In that article, I offer strategies for the person who’s been cut off by someone and wants to get back together.
A life together, a future as a team, and perhaps some little people added to the mix.
Children who learn kindness, fairness, honesty, consideration for others, reason and gratitude don’t typically reject those values as adults, nor do they choose partners who encourage them to be cruel, unfair, dishonest, selfish, unreasonable or ungrateful towards their loved ones.
One reader whose adult child had ceased all contact offered this perhaps unwittingly honest feedback: “I don’t agree we have to do something wrong.
That's what was running through my head when I walked up the aisle almost 18 years ago, anxious, teary and excited to take the next step in my life with the woman I loved.
Then we had one, two, three children and somehow bringing tiny little people into the mix didn't make our relationship any easier, didn't help us find a common ground and get along smoothly.